surfs-up-blr said: So I told the guy I like how I felt and he said " I Ike you too but I think we should stay friends for now. What does that mean?

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Anonymous said: I don't know how to tell my mom I'm pansexual and that I don't feel correct calling myself a girl or a boy. What should I do?

Coming out is always going to be hard, and you should do it on your own time, at your own pace. If you don’t feel comfortable coming out to your parents yet, you don’t have to. Your sexuality - your gender - is your business. Society is a bit fickle on the details, like identifying you by your gender. Even if you do come out, there’s no guarantee your parents will accept it; even if they do accept it, there’s no guarantee that they’ll understand it, or be able to know how to properly address you. 

But what matters is your self-actualization. If you are comfortable with you, that’s all that matters. I struggled with my gender and sexuality too, even though I generally identify as cisgender male and mostly heterosexual. It’s the same curious world for me. I don’t fit gender norms for my gender, and regularly feel to feminine for a man, always out of place by a step or two; I know I like ladies, however I also know that I could like guys, although I’d never want to pursue that unless it were very special. 

But I know me. I can tell you what I am, dear stranger, and who I am. To my most trusted friends, I can share these same realities about myself should they ever want to know. My mom may never know, unless she read obscure blog posts like this one, which I doubt will ever happen. And whether she knows or not is a non-issue; her life will be fine without knowing, and my life will be fine without her knowing.

Will your life be fine without your parents knowing? Are you okay accepting that sometimes people will view you differently or address you differently? Or is that not okay, and you believe people should see and respect you for who you are, as you exist? These are questions you should contemplate before coming out to people. You don’t have a duty to fly a flag for your gender or sexuality - you’re a human, not a flagpole, and nobody will think less of you for keeping your business private. But if that’s what you want to do, to reveal yourself for your own sake or for the sake of others, then raise that flag high.

Be proud of who you are. There’s only one of you and you’re very special. And if you ever feel lonely, being so unique and awesome, remember there are tons of us out there who are here to bring up your spirits. :) 

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Anonymous said: What are signs that tell when a guy usually likes you?

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redamansyy said: over the past two months my bf isn't putting in as much effort as before. When we were dating he use to get me flowers, text me all day, invite me over all the time, take me on dates, tells me in beautiful. Pretty much the perfect guy! But as soon as I agreed to he bf and gf with him he has stopped all of this. But when I bring it up he says he loves me just as much as always?It's making me extremely stressed and I can't stop thinking about him loosing interest, what should i do?

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Anonymous said: What exactly do you mean by "be careful how you approach things" ? Ps. I'm glad it's not weird lol

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Anonymous said: I kinda like a guy that is 2 years younger then me. I'm 16 and he is 14 but is that bad? Or weird? Like that he is younger by two years?

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grimsdark:

The next time a guy complains about being friendzoned, send him this picture.

grimsdark:

The next time a guy complains about being friendzoned, send him this picture.

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Anonymous said: I broke up with my boyfriend months ago. I felt great being out of the relationship at first, but now I feel really down. I can only remember his good points and it gets me down thinking that I let him go. What do I do? :(

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lovingmagcon2:



Self-explanatory, but also, this gif is so awesome. FLAGS, MY FRIENDS, FLAGS!

lovingmagcon2:

Self-explanatory, but also, this gif is so awesome. FLAGS, MY FRIENDS, FLAGS!

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Anonymous said: I need some help. Ok so last year I flirted with this guy a lot and stuff then summer came and I kinda just forgot about it all. Then on the first day of school I realized we had biology together. So I just thought he had forgot all about last year but on that first day he turned around and said "hey, I thought you said you were taking chemistry I didn't think we would have this class together:)" so idk if that means he didn't forget about last year and still likes me?

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Anonymous said: My boyfriend is amazing. But I feel like I can never ask him to do something because he doesn't do it, or he forgets whatever. I need someone who I can depend on sometimes. I mean it's not even that hard, I'm not asking for money or anything. Sometimes, its just to be somewhere, or text me something. He has adhd, is that why he's like this? :(

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Anonymous said: Hi I'm 18 and starting university in a few weeks. I'm still a virgin, I haven't had a relationship in nearly two years, due to not finding the right person and some not great stuff happening in my life. I'm worried of what people will think if me, of course I don't want a relationship where being a virgin is a problem (of course I do want to have sex at one point) but do I keep it quiet in case they judge me? Or do I tell them straight away?

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Anonymous said: do people really need a reason to like/love someone?

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