Does he like me?

So a few days ago, in one of my classes I was just daydreaming minding my own business and my classmate who I barely talk to touches my back and says to me all sincerely, “You look really cute today.” He has a girlfriend and he’s notorious for flirting with other girls. He’s the stereotypical jock guy (athletic, good looking, dumb)while me in the other hand, barely talks in the class and I’m a nerdy kind of gal. 

      Later that day, I was walking to another class I spot him making out with his girlfriend and he sees me and ask I’m walking to my next class he’s looking exactly at me while making out with his girl. I felt so dirty and gross the rest of the day! I have no feelings for him whatsoever but he was on my mind all day. Is this normal? Does he have feelings for me or he’s just being a douche?

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Anonymous asked: Are we moving two fast? We're both 22, have known each other for six months, and have been dating for 2 weeks. (feels longer then that though because we've hung out, and work together, we've been together almost all the time in the last six months) We had a wonderful make out session (lasted like 4 hours amg) Thursday, that led to us half naked, and me giving him a hand job. I'm a virgin, he's not. We get along really well, and I like him a lot. I just don't want to screw this up.

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He fixed my clothing. What?!

Hi! So omygosh I have a question and since you are guys I was hoping you would help me decipher this thing! So the second time he kissed me (my boyfriend) I was wearing a crop top and a long maxi skirt. However, I was not revealing too much, my crop top and my skirt had maybe like a one inch gap that showed my skin. When I hugged him the shirt moved upwards of course since he is really tall but anyways as I was hugging him and then kissing him my shirt rose up and guess what he did?!? Guess! He did not continue to pull it up but he felt my skin I’m guessing and he pulled my shirt down! As to cover my opening skin! Lol I kinda giggled because I found it a bit funny and odd you know? Most guys would usually try to take clothes off not put them back on! Lol does that mean anything? Is it weird? Lol I don’t know I mean, would you do that? Why? Lol let me know what you think! Thanks! (:

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I should mention that I’m the only guy on this site! Charlie is a lady, as is Megan. You can actually see who we are here if you want to. But moving on.

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Anonymous asked: I always hear "it's because he's a man" as an excuse for a man's laziness, thoughtlessness and lack of intuition, especially towards his female partner. I HATE that excuse, but everyone around me seems to use it, men and women - is the reality of my future as a straight woman to end up with a man who gets so comfortable he doesn't care to really *think* about me anymore?

No, and fuck that ideology completely. Most people who’ve read my opinions here know I’m an outspoken feminist. And although I shouldn’t really speak to the beliefs of the others who write here with me, I say with confidence that my friends here identify with the tenants of feminism too. 

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Anonymous asked: So i've been friends with a guy at work, and recently I had an intimate dream about him which has confused me completely, and I think I've started to like him, but I don't think he sees me as anything more than a friend? I'm really small, so he's always teasing me about my height, and we're always playfully mean to each other, but not in a very flirty way, more of a bantery way? What do you think?

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crystal-nature asked: so my friend is trying to set me up with her boyfriend's cousin and apparently he really likes me (even tho we only met once and i barely talked to him) and she is relentlessly trying to get us to make "plans" together in someway. the thing is, he's 5 years older than me, i dont find him attractive, and he's really weird. my friend loves him and thinks we'd be perfect together so how do i reject him without making the friend group awkward together? my friend isnt that understanding. help please?

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My mother is CRAZY!

I feel as though I may be  in an emotionally abusive relationship with my mother. She will freak out at little things and NEVER admits she’s wrong. Last night she asked my sister to get her a Dictionary. When my sister brought her an advanced one my mother yelled at her for not bringing her a child one like she asked. When I, my sister, and my father told her she had misspoken, she immediately threw the victim card. “Im unwanted here. If you keep arguing like this I’ll go to bed.”

She will often over-exaggerate things that have happened, and will ignore you if you ask things. For example, the other day I was at the mall with her. She told me to look at a dress, and I said I don’t like dresses. She basically snarled at me to GO LOOK AT THAT DRESS. I did, and when I came back and told her it was nice but it’s not my type. She completely ignored me the rest of the trip and when we got home told me she didn’t know why she bothers talking to me when I never pay attention or care about her opinion.

I can’t remember exactly what happened,but I remember I was reading something and she asked me to do something (Can’t remember what it was.). I went to save my report I had been proof-reading and it takes less then five seconds for her to start yelling about how I don’t care about her, how she’s going to ‘uninstall’ my game from the computer. I get her what she asked for, and she screams at me. She had mispoken again (As both my father and brother heard she asked for one thing), but she yells at them that they’re just trying to defend me. She then goes on a rant about how many more things she had accomplished at her age, and how much better she was at her age. “I had my license at your age, I was taking care of my father! I was playing and weddings already! Do YOU do that? Huh? Do you?”

I feel it’s important to add that I’ve gone to state for the things i’m involved in, am at an advanced level in piano and have won trophies, and am an A B student. If I ever mess up at home or have bad judgement, she’ll yell about who stupid and retarded I am.

Is there anything I can do? I know she’s even worse to my father and younger sister. Do I just try to get through it? I leave for college in two years.

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Anonymous asked: So I've been talking to this girl on Facebook recently and she seems genuinely interested in me. (i.e. questions back, engaging conversation, etc.) But, she is the self-proclaimed worst at messaging back and promised she would text me on Friday, but didn't. I'm not sure if I should initiate contact again or wait for her to get around to it (could be following the three day guy rule) so I don't look too needy. Thanks!

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Anonymous asked: i'm in love with my best friend. he has a girlfriend who he really wants to break up with and the way he's behaving is giving me mixed signals. we kissed while we were drunk but sober he'll kiss my head and face and play fight with me and we'll hug and cuddle for ages. he has quite a lot of female friends but he makes me feel different. he's so touchy feely but i don't mind because i have feelings for him but idk if they are returned and whether he's just doing it because we're best friends?

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Anonymous asked: blowjobs: i keep trying to like giving them to my boyfriend but i cant deal with the taste/smell. hes okay with it, but i would really like to be able to give him one without hating every second and pulling away. is there anything i can do, without hating it? id love to be able to please him.

Try flavoured condoms? :) 

Charlie x

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Also, if it smells down there, he should probably err… wash a little better. There’s obviously going to be a little smell, but it shouldn’t be repulsive. That’s just unhygienic. O_O 

-Chris

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Anonymous asked: I'd also like to add onto my past question, I have literally no experience with any sort of sexual experienced girl. The 2 girls I have dated were virgins and we never had sex, so this could add onto why I lack the ability to sympathize with the fact that each person is an individual despite promiscuity, and my only real experience with promiscuity is reading things on the internet.

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Anonymous asked: So I don't know if you'll be able to help me with this, but im running out of people to turn to. A few years ago I had a problem with self harm. After about two years of cutting, I stopped. Now, a year later, I'm finding it really hard not to cut. Do you have any tips on how to deal with wanting to do self harm, or ways to remember not to do it?

For the short term, keep an elastic band on your wrist and snap it when you get cutting urges. 
I would recommend that for the long term solution, you try and get in touch with a counsellor or a therapist. They will be able to help you work out why you do it and once you understand that it’ll be easier to stop. 
I personally channel my emotions into artwork. I don’t know if it’ possible for you but if you can, get yourself a big bit of paper or canvas or an old bed sheet and a load of cheap paints and just get really messy squishing the paint everywhere with your hands. it’s a good short term therapy to let all your built up feelings out. 
All the best, 
Charlie x

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Rushing Into Relationships

So, now a days I feel like a lot of teens feel the need of rushing themselves into a relationship and when they do they end up having a relationship with someone that only brings a heartache. One thing that I’ve learned, is that everything takes time and the more you rush things the bigger probability you have of things not working out. If something is meant to be it will be, don’t rush it. Don’t be in love with the idea of love, it’s a tricky thing but that’s why you have to take your time. Also, how do you know when a guy is “the one” or even a “potential one”? How do you know if he is really into you, or if he only wants you for sexual purposes?

Here’s a tip: If a guy is willing to wait for you and willing to respect your choices, he could be a potential candidate!

Quick story, I really liked this guy he was 3 years older than me and we started talking one day and we continued talking. He liked me and I liked him, we hung out but only as friends, no kissing, no touching, just friends because he knew that I was not ready to be in a relationship. Well, this continued for over three years and yeah it seems like a long time but that’s the beauty of it! After three years we still had feelings for each other, well needless to say he’s now my boyfriend and I love the fact that he was willing to wait for me that long. I don’t mean that you should wait three years to be in a relationship with someone haha but just wait until you are ready. If a guy asks you out and you barely met him don’t pull an Anna (Frozen reference) and say yes to him just because he asked because you’re most likely in love with the idea of love. 

It’s okay to say no! 

Just think things through, good things take time and if it’s meant to be, it will be! You all deserve better than a boy or a girl that is just a passing phase. It’s okay to wait, it’s okay to say no, it’s okay to want to be happy. Don’t be pressured into wanting to be in a relationship just because everyone else is. It’s okay, just do you. In the end, everything falls into place so take your time.

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Normally I like me and my group of friends giving out the advice, and don’t like publishing any little advice write-ups we receive. But this is some pretty sound and solid advice, and if you’ve ever wondered about whether you should rush into a relationship, or have questioned whether someone likes you or is just using you, this is a nice read.

Thanks anon! I have no idea why you wanted to be anon when I posted this. :P If you want to recant and get credit for this shout at me, and I’ll link your Tumblr. 

-Chris

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